Date night

So I have a date. As far as I recall it's been six months since anybody messaged me on OK Cupid or Plenty of Fish but a few days ago someone living in Margate did, the day after I said yes to Bangor university. The signs are good and bad. Mostly not good, I think. On the good side, we have alot in common. She went has lived in two countries abroad, taught English as a foreign language, was once a copywriter, writes short stories, has a disabled mother (agorophobia) and listens to alternative music and is apparently unemployed. All of those things more or less apply to me too. I don't think you can call my meagre existence living on occasional gigs and tax credits a grown up job. In addition, she went to Goldsmith's college. All good.

Now the not good. Well okay, superficially we have alot in common but I didn't detect any spark in our 56 message text chat and that is first and foremost. It was a pretty dull conversation. Second, it felt a little pushy. She opened with:

hello, I am also a writer when I am not looking after my mum, who has agrophobia [sic],
I see you are in Margate. Me too. It's great isn't it?

Now the truth of Margate is it certainly has its charms but many people would describe it as a dump. I guess it's a bit of a mixed bag. But why is she asking me to confirm that it's great when this is by no means a given? I would translate her first paragraph as:

 I have to look after my mother and am therefore confined to Margate. As a result it's important I and my potential spouse like Margate. Margate is great. There we are, I just planted the suggestion in both our minds.

The exchange rolled on a bit, during which it became clear that she hadn't read my profile properly. That was disappointing. Anyway at an opportune moment (though it's already mentioned on my profile) I mention that I'm going to Bangor. She writes:

 That's a bit far away! Why are you going so far away?

Again, to me this is non-sequitur. Far away from where? From Margate? It's not as if I'll be commuting each day from Margate. Is Margate the centre of the universe? No. It's in the arse end of Kent. Bangor is in the arse end of Wales. No biggie. Wherever I am is the centre of my world and at least I'll be surrounded by people I can talk to, which is more than can be said for my life in Margate. So Nicky (her name) asks me what I'm studying and I say Chinese and Creative Studies and she says it's a bit random but it's my choice. I don't know if she means the location is random or my degree choice, due to the delay you get with text chat and I don't ask for clarification. I just say I don't know anybody in Margate and she says:

You know me for starters

Which is really nice, except it's barely true, I'm not even an FB friend. Also, I've been on OKC since June 2015 and she never messaged me in all that time. As far as I recall, her profile has been around all that time or near enough. I think I may have liked it but I must admit I never messaged her.

So those are all my dark thoughts. It doesn't look like a match made in heaven and I can't say I'm bothered because my heart is set on uni.On top of that I'm not happy about my appearance at present.